My husband started cheating when I left for a job. Another option is to go to marriage counseling or individual counseling, and try to figure out how your jealousy is affecting your marriage. 1) About three months ago, after I got out of the shower, my husband said I was ugly with a towel on my head and demanded I take the towel off immendiately. I just want out of all things lies and cheating. I dont know your husband at all, but I know men sometimes pull away when they feel stressed or unable to care for their families. Yes, we had hard times, but we were strong enough to get to this point where we get married. im currently doing a research for my new website on the subject and this was a great article! And i told him that alochol was just as much a drug as weed is and he and i do not see eye to eye on this. The truth is I never had a reason to distrust either of them until then. He is 15 years older than me. We had almost no physical intimacy (holding hands, kissing, etc) 4. It pisses me off more than ever but once again, its because I cant have him but I dont think I would even want him, bc of how he is lying to himself and his wife. So him and this guy was curious I guess. If your husband is best friends with a woman and leaving you out of the relationship, it may be an emotional affair. Not sure about his reply but other than their sickening vacation he was home every night, every weekend. A man who means his apology and won't cheat again will understand that. Everyone could me she was trouble. Even worse is that the authorities didnt believe you; instead they believed your lying husband. When Danny comes over to get my girl my husband gets this anger that Ive never seen before sometimes he says I flirt with danny and even goes as far as accusing me of wanting danny and saying Id cheat with him. You did the right thing by telling your mom that he cheated. Thats what she has girlfriends for so text them and leave my husband out of your drama. An Ex-CIA Polygraph Examiner Reveals What Men Dont Want You to Know, Dan Crum reveals the two biggest signs of deception, the best way to trap a liar, and what to look and listen for when you suspect your husband is lying about having an affair. She said, they make a mistake. Also, did you ask him about the texts? Or I thought I could change him, or he would change. Often when a husband cheats on us, we can feel bad about our bodies, as if we werent attractive enough for him this should never be the case! etc. He takes care of her by paying her rent and etc. It will get you to where you are supposed to be. I dont know you, but YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT!!! I knew our marriage wasnt perfect, but I never would have believed this kind, gentle man would do this sort of thing. Get what you can from whats left of the relationship and move on. I eventually got over the hurt and devostation of his cheating and found our marriage was so much better than it has ever been. Now my husband has gotten angry, mad in our conversations. the really take note of how exactly many profiles he had out there. When women whose husbands lie about cheating are later asked if there were any red flags earlier in the relationship, 95% of them say YES. But, heres the amazing thing, Chrissy. Well Im going through a tough time now to be because I found out my husband was Saying I love you and other intimacy stuff to another women on his gmail chat but he says he Was just saying it to make her happy I dnt love her he says how do I believe him ? She is married. Hello, Ive been married for 18 years and recently found out that my husband has been carrying on an affair with an ex-high school girlfriend whom hed gotten pregnant while they were still in high school but she lost the baby due to his mothers interference. Im sorry you had to be, though I wish you and your husband were having no problems to write about. 1)He is not interested in physical intimacy as he was before, 2)He avoids physical and emotional contact, 4)He picks fights or start arguments with you, You poor thing :( Ive just had a baby and to be told I know u get paranoid when ur pregnant just makes u paranoid its a bit insensitive if u ask me. Maybe it would be effective to outright ask him if hes having an affair. My amazing man who lifted up my spirits like nobody else could, had shattered my world with an affair. Maybe me as a naive, virgin girl and living with abuse and learning how to deal with abusive men when i was a child, formed me into what I am doing now. I cant even say i understand my husband anymore. i just need some help figuring this out please HELP!!! I could walk away from this and just take it a misunderstanding..and I wanting a blood test. He started to change, being very mean, being out late, changing his phones password, blocking me. even noticed a Pornhub scank so not only is it half nudes now it looks like more . I found strange underware but we all joked it off. been married for 7years, 1year ago i find out that my husband been cheated on me coz i found out picture of the girl of his bedroom and vedio of the girl taking shower to his own bathroom that time i was 9 months pregnant to my 2ndchild and i was on my own country and he was on overseas work, and he tell it wasnt his girl it was his friend i dont believe because he got all the pictures and video to his hardisc he just keep telling me that he did not cheat on me before that why i was thinking that he cheated on me because he change a lot, he became more angry, he tried to avoid an conversetion to me.. and saying we need to save money bla bla bla.. but he never been like that before.but i want to save my mirrage but i dont know coz sexually we never been making love for 1 and 1/2 year now.. i just dont know what to do, one more he spent more time in the computer than to us, My husband of 4 years said to me yesterday out of the blue that im boring in bed im like an old woman and that i pushed him to other women then quickly changed his answer to your gonna push me toi asked him how can we be intimate if i go to bed EVERY night alone. Then someone told me things just dont pop up like that in any search field. Men lie plain and simple my husband and I have not even been married a full month I have caught him red handed LYING about a few things. One evening I went to a local store and I saw his large work truck parked there and her van was parked just behind him. Life coach Martha Beck asks, What do you know that you dont want to know? Its a very deep, frightening question to answer. I have chewed my nails to bits over this issue, because I havent the tiniest clue how to approach this situation. Your venting helped me put the missing pieces together. In the fallout from the first lie, I removed him from my Facebook relationship status. I And I am. Now Im pregnant again with our son and I found out that he has been talking to women on craigslist, I also found evidence that he has met up with some of these women, not just one either. Not sure what to do Been with my fianc for 4 years, we have an amazing little boy together. That is what started spiking my concern. Every marriage breakdown is complicated and it might not be as black and white as because he cheated. So maybe men who get cheated on hang put with each other as well. Love = Woman. I hope this helps. If he wasnt happy, he should have suggested marriage counseling for you both rather than starting a relationship with someone else. Then when he did get home it was jump in shower, well i read that you can tell if man had sex especially in hurry to leave gf, check underwear for late ejectuation. You never really stated just how you feel though so I cannot be sure. ATT : Lost Are you an Australian resident? Everything the exwife told me about her husband and this woman is happenning to me now .Is there anyway I can get this man to leave me and move in with this woman, My husband paid lobola for me, but we have not finilised the traditional ceremony, but he is seeing his snons mother behind my back, Hi Im going through enough with my life as well Ive been talking to this guy for almost 2 years now he always told me he loved me an did almost anything for me then i found out he was married an now have a baby on the way i been involved with him for to long now i dont no what to do i no i need to call the quits but how someone help please. His untruths are more frequent. Linda, you dont have to go anywhere to buy a tracker. Let the other person deal with that drama. Also, my husbands attitude towards me has changed a lot, he always pick up quarrels with me, he is no longer intimate with me as we used to be, sometimes, I cant help but think that he is no longer in love with me. That is neither respect, love or caring that they are showing to you when they do this, it is a selfish, self pitying behaviour no matter how anyone sugar coats it. She was 25. All three have been in our marriage. :), I had the same issue with my bf of 4 yrshe was still best friends with his first love, as well as his whole family. Ive had enough. My gut instinct was screaming!! I think he has a lot of potential to be a great and stable partner. He was surprised, and hurt that I would entrap him. Thank you for sharing how to know if your husband is cheating. Xox. I dont know why I still love him but I do LOVE him. men do not want to father as many kids as possible, and they know that if they get a girl preg theyll be found out, and will have to pay child support. Im very sorry you went through that on your honeymoon. Someone even told me the could be swingers. I use a site called UndercoverAffairs.com and youll find lot of like minded people who are married (like me!) I feel really betrayed, since this is the 3rd time. He has no use for them now, or me. Younger than our niece. Help someone. My best advice is to divorce him. When I found out his girlfriend, the only girl he has dated since our divorce a year and a half ago, was someone he had met at his old job, I asked, Were you having an affair. He looked down at the floor and said, No, No. I hardly knew her when I worked there. It doesnt hurt that its fun. My Mother passed away only last week and now I have this to deal with. Then I questioned 2 friends of mine in his department, they were mutual friends. If you dont feel secure, safe, and settled in your relationship, then theres something wrong. He said he had set this site up for his friend who he went to visit a few weeks ago. I am in a VERY similar situation: married for 1.5yrs, been together for 5. The look on both their faces was priceless and he chased me down when I walked out. Are you happy in this relationship? six months ago, i bumped into his whatssap conversation where he was telling a lady that can he come and show her his big blah blah blah. I really hope youve found strength since you wrote this Im praying for you! Too bad for him cause hes in his undies, lol. I also found a journal entry that he wrote after I confronted the cheating and he said in the journal entry he feels less of a man because he vowed to me that he would never do the things all of the other men have done to me ( exs ) and he just kept writing that he feels so much less of a man and I honestly hated reading that because I dont want the man that I love feeling that way but then again I want him to feel the pain im in. The blaming me part, denying everything until you find out. My gut instinct told me my 12 year fiance is cheating let alone him making an excuse every evening to leave when it gets dark so I cannot see where he is going. We spent many hours talking and spare life stories. Hes deleted texts to her but left hers. He has taught me the biggest lesson of my life! I LET THEM because I thought I was wrong!! 10. We all do and hurt or not I want to make things better. The guy I was with 2 1/2 years I finally found out he cheated on me. I told him I was leaving him and he begged me to stay, offered to go to counseling for a sex addiction. And cant move on without it!! Your grandma on your moms side? Woman, you need to pack his stuff up and send him to the left! I am even pregnant, I have unpacked my bags because I cant stand going on a four days vacation with him knowing he just cheated on me. Am contemplating ending the marriage. He excepted. Have you directly asked him if hes cheating on you? Our intimacy has came to a hault, we went from numberous times per day to maybe 1-3 times per month since March. IT MIGHT SOUND SO STRANGE TO YOU BUT IT FEELS LIKE ME WHEN I READ YOURS MY HUSBAND HAS BEING HAVING AFFAIR WITH HIS PERSONAL ASSISTANT FOR ABOUT 3 YEARS NOW AND IT WAS NOT HIM WHO SPILLED THE BEANS IT WAS HER AND WHEN I ASK HE GETS ANGRY AND DENIES IT ALL THE TIME BUT I KNOW IT HAS BEEN HAPPENING THE LYING , WORKING LATE THEY ALWAYS TOGETHER BUYS HIS CLOTHES GOES TO THE CHEMIST TAKES HIS CLOTHES TO THE TAILORS AND BELIEVE ME SHE IS NOTHING TO LOOK AT SHE IS HUGE AND SO OVER WEIGHT AND SHE IS ALWAYS AT OUR HOUSE IM A HAIRDRESSER SO I WORK WEEKENDS SO WHEN I GET HOME SHE WILL BE AT OUR HOUSE TILL LATE IT HAS GOT SO BAD THAT I HAVE BANNED HER FROM OUR HOUSE MY BOYS ALSO DONT LIKE HER IT FEELS LIKE SHE IS HIS SECOND WIFE. Cheaters just make me sick. I completely snapped. That doesnt mean that you cant take your failing marriage as an excuse to change up your appearance, but do it in a way to pamper yourself and make you feel more confident. 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